Assalamu alaikum beautiful sisters
It’s World Sickle Cell Day ❤️
I’ll be talking about Warriors and Abusive Relationships.
WARRIORS AND ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS….
It saddens me to see what most warriors go through just to keep a relationship. Some warriors even have to lie about their genotype.
I understand we all want companionship, we all want to love and be loved just like every other person out there but the bitter truth is that being in a relationship built on pity and lies is like walking into hell with your eyes wide open.
Some years back, I found myself in a relationship where I was being reminded of my health status and whenever he does anything wrong, if I try to ask his reasons for doing that, he tells me that I’m lucky he’s dating a warrior like me. That he’s doing me a huge favor because no man would want to love me. I didn’t need a prophet to advise me, there and then, I ended the relationship after telling him that he was actually lucky to have a unique person as me.
Friends told me that I should have endured it and hope that he will change in the future.
But as my dad would always say “MARRIAGE IS TO BE ENJOYED AND NOT TO BE ENDURED”.
One of my warrior friend who has been on admission for over a month now has been in the hospital all alone because her husband says he doesn’t have time to waste by staying with her. Several times she has called me and would be crying just because of what her husband was making her go through just because she is a warrior. Sometimes she says she prefers sleeping outside in the cold than to be in the same room with her husband.
I had to plead with her to go back to her parent’s house. And when she tried ending the marriage, her family members kicked against it and told her to endure because she may never find any man who would like to marry her due to her health status and it has been from one trauma to another all in the name of marriage.
Does it have to be so? When will people realize that sickle cell warriors are humans and deserve to be treated with love and respect.
Why go into a relationship with someone when you know that you are not ready to be there for them?? Why add to the person’s pain instead of making life better for them??
This has made so many warriors to hide their status but how long will you keep hiding it? I always tell warriors that it’s better out than in. Say it out, whoever that is meant for you will stay regardless of your health status. That is what love is all about.
Love is not pity.
And to family members and the society at large, stop putting pressure on female warriors to get married or endure an abusive relationship just because you don’t want people to talk.
Surviving each day through crisis is enough battle that sickle cell warriors have to fight.
I am always grateful to God for my mum and siblings, even though it’s every mother’s wish to see her daughter get married, the first question my Mum would ask a man who is interested in me is are you aware of her health status and are you capable of taking care of my daughter?? My sisters are always there to support me too.
To warriors, please don’t be desperate to be in a relationship with someone who feels nothing but pity for you. And no matter the stigmatization, never hide your genotype especially if you truly love that person. If it’s meant to be, then not even sickle cell can stop it.
Be proud of who you are.
Never give room for pity and if your relationship is an abusive one or is built on lies, please end it.
Don’t let people push you into an early grave.
Finally, always remember that God will never give up on you even when people give up on you.
You will surely find true love but it starts with you loving yourself first.
Dear Warrior You are Beautiful and Special .
My name is Safiyya Ibrahim and I am more than a conqueror ❤️懶
Health is wealth 